During the Values Conversation™ I often get the response "Give me an example of what you are looking for,"after I ask the question, "What's Important About...To You?" Could you offer some advice?

The more relaxed you are during the VC the more relaxed they will be. Everything in your Way Of Being™, from how you ask the question, making sure the pen is not in your hand when you ask the question, and sitting back in your chair when you ask the question sends the message that they are free to take their time and think of the answer that is relevant for them. Be sure that you are asking the question exactly as taught, What’s Important About ______... To You? And have a nice comfortable pause before “To you?”

If after you are doing all that a person asks, “can you give me an example?” Your response is, “No I can’t. This is all about you and not about me or your husband / wife / partner making suggestions. Relax and take your time… What’s Important About _______... To You?”