When I ask, "Who would like to go first" I have had three occasions where the husband refereed to the wife out of being polite. So I said, "Well I learned a long time ago to start with the person who does not volunteer” and I start with the husband. When we change over to the wife she says, "Well my answers are the same as him and they just repeat his answers and really don't want to progress up the staircase. How do I determine who to start with?

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Last updated: 20 Nov, 2019

The objective is to begin with the less dominant person first. You learn that by the way a person either volunteers or volunteers the other person. In the case you have described here, you should begin with the spouse who was volunteered.

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